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Mike and Allana donated to SIMCOE HALL SETTLEMENT HOUSE
Wednesday, November 15, 2017
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Jeannie Wallace donated to SIMCOE HALL SETTLEMENT HOUSE
Monday, November 13, 2017
I can't wait to see Jim again in the earthly Paradise that God promised
—Isaiah 11:6-9; 35:1, 2
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Garrett Hutchinson posted a condolence
Saturday, November 11, 2017
My memories of Uncle Jim usually involved being active whether it was long walks, hikes, playing basketball or going for a 30km bike ride the first time being on a 10 speed bike.....with no water.
He helped me to appreciate the simple things the beauty of the great outdoors, the colour of leaves changing, the importance of a good walking stick, how to respectfully finish a milkshake to the last drop without making the slurping noise, road trips, and most importantly the value of family.
Uncle Jim was always looking for that something special for each of us. I remember getting my first BMX bike, a GT snow racer, movie posters, tools and T-shirts from Uncle Jim. He truly knew me well and definitely knew my interests.
I always liked the times when Uncle Jim would show up with a new mixed tape for us to enjoy which helped reinforce Stew's views of what it was to be a great musician.
Another great memory I have is the younger four cousin hug where Uncle Jim would wrap his arms around the four of us and pick us all up at once and give us a giant hug....he was so strong.
Uncle Jim had achieved super hero status by the time I was 5! I loved our time together and will remember these memories forever.
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Erika Noll posted a condolence
Thursday, November 9, 2017
Dearest Jeannie, Carol, and Debbie
My sincere condolences on the loss of your brother. From the very first time I met Uncle Jim he was kind and accepting of me and everyone around him. Over the years I have heard many funny and touching stories from Connie and many of his nieces and nephews. His love for his family and their love for him was obvious. Life was not always easy for him, but Jim seemed to accept whatever difficulties he had with much grace, dignity, and faith. The world has definitely lost a gentle soul. My thoughts and prayers are with you
Erika Noll
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Jason Noll posted a condolence
Wednesday, November 8, 2017
Jimmy a great friend a great mentore who will be missed but never forgotten, what can I say that so many others already have. We love you. Give mom a big hug for me.
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Susi (Sue Neujahr) posted a condolence
Wednesday, November 8, 2017
Highschool. That is when I had the pleasure to get to know Jim. Our conversations were always a few notches above the typical teenage talks. After reading his heartfelt tribute, I see that he remained a kind and gentle soul throughout his life. My condolences to Jim's family. Rest peacefully Jim xo
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Diane Fisher posted a condolence
Tuesday, November 7, 2017
Dear Jean and family. We were so sorry to hear of your loss, we know how much you loved Jim. While I met Jim on only a handful of occasions, I felt like I knew him through your eyes... his sincere care and concern for everyone, especially the family. His large heartedness and generosity which endeared him to you so. We cannot wait until we see Jim restored to perfect health in God's Kingdom, to live the life that you always wished for him! Thinking of you, with sympathy and much love. James and Diane
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Lynsey Hamilton posted a condolence
Tuesday, November 7, 2017
On behalf of Dr. V. Parmar and the entire Outpatient Mental Health Staff we would like to extend our most deepest sympathy on the loss of Fred Kay.
We were deeply saddened to hear of his passing and our thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends at this time.
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Virginia Hutchinson posted a condolence
Monday, November 6, 2017
I’ve been reflecting, like many of us, on Uncle Jim and the plentiful, shared memories. I see how many hats this man wore – brother, uncle, son, friend, confidante…and the list goes on and on, doesn’t it? It’s amazing that one person could be so many different things to so many different people.
I have plenty of similar memories to the ones already listed here: Jim’s incredible athleticism and passion for sports (that basketball hoop was never so well loved as when Jim came for a visit!), good food, good music (he found out that I liked the Beatles and proceeded to record 12 mixed tapes worth of their albums for me), his love of the arts (particularly photography), good conversation, and of course, the running theme here – his genuine love for all of his family.
A few personal memories:
- When I was young, Jim stands out very distinctly as being the first adult that I had a conversation with who talked to me as though what I had to say ACTUALLY mattered! Jim loved to talk as we all know, but he was a really fantastic listener, too. So many moments come to mind.
- Jim and I shared the pull-out sofa bed in the basement on Christmas Eve. I might have been 7 years old. We waited until Dad went to sleep, and we snuck Mandy (our family dog that loved Jim as much as she loved the rest of us, I’m sure) up into the bed with us. He left the radio on low, playing Christmas music to fall asleep to. It was the best Christmas ever.
- He loved to teach us stuff, and he loved to learn from us, too. He seemed to make certain there were opportunities for the road to run both ways, and he was infinitely patient whether I was handling a soldering gun, or he was teaching me a particular dance (we replayed that Dr Hook song 46 times if we played it once, until I could do the whole dance flawlessly ALL THE WAY THROUGH), whatever the current project required.
- Lastly, Jim kept a darn clean car. I remember being SO annoyed, as he would always spend a portion of his visit at mum and dad’s cleaning his car! I wanted to have that time with him, and it was absolute torture that he would take an entire afternoon (because, let’s face it – if Jim was going to clean the car, it was going to be a VERY clean car by the time he was done) when he might only be down for a few days! I must have whined about it one time, as he explained to me that mum and dad’s place was his favourite spot to clean his car, as it was easy and roomy to do so.
Jim let me help do the car windows that day, and I felt (weirdly) proud that mum and dad have the best front yard for cleaning cars (and they do, he was 100% right!). If I wasn’t mollified by that point, I’m certain that by the end of the 76 long-bomb football passes we did after supper, everything was once again right with the world.
I suspect Jim’s style of “Uncle-ing” has had a direct influence on my brother, as all three of my own kids (fully-grown and young adults now) have given that same cool-as-heck, cult-idol status to Uncle Garrett. It’s that “listening like you’re important” move, I’m pretty sure. And Garrett was fortunate to have been able to learn it from the best.
So much gratitude for all of those moments you made with us, Uncle Jim.
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Natalie posted a condolence
Monday, November 6, 2017
Jimmy Kay... a complex man with a huge heart. He truly understood the importance of the need to feel loved and always made sure to let you know that he loved you.
Up until this last week, we didn’t think we had many pictures of us as kids, Jim has a great collection. It is very clear from all his pictures that he was like a proud parent to all of his nieces and nephews and even all of their children. He kept every card, poem, letter & drawing from everyone like they were a treasure.
When I was around 8yrs old we were watching Solid Gold and I expressed that I wanted to be a solid gold dancer when I grew up, my mom quickly said that’s crazy and then Jim immediately stood up and said Jeannie she can do whatever she wants, she could be a solid gold dancer! He went on to make sure I knew that if that is what I really wanted to be that it could happen… well I never came close but I have always remembered how he believed in me and always wanted the best not just for me but everyone in his life.
I look forward to the time when I can see Jim again in perfect health and all the things that he dreamed about doing will be a reality for him. I hold close to my heart the promises God has made in Revelation 21:4 he promises to wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. Psalms 37: 10, 11 tells us it’s just a little while longer and the wicked will be no more, but the meek will possess the earth, and they will find exquisite delight in the abundance of peace - Jim deserves this life, and will excel at whatever he puts his mind to as I have never met a more persistent and determined person in my life!
Working thru the feelings of losing someone is so complicated and unnatural, simply because we were created to live. When I look back at Jims life this is clear, as even though he struggled he always had a real zeal and love for life.
Knowing that Jim is in God’s memory, asleep in death and awaiting a resurrection brings our family real peace at this time. My heart goes out to all of the rest of the family and friends who are thinking about and missing Jim. Much Love to you all.
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Bridget Bott and Helmut Ammon donated to RONALD MCDONALD HOUSE CHARITIES
Monday, November 6, 2017
To Jim's Family...We are so sorry for your loss. You are in our thoughts and in our prayers....
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Kurt Ammon posted a condolence
Monday, November 6, 2017
I am writing this about Jim and to Jim
Jim….you were my uncle, big brother and more importantly a friend. My memories go way back to childhood years as we lived together for much of my youth. The memories I have as a child are not all rosy however especially taking the fastball pitch to the mouth when you needed a catcher so you could practice your pitching. I was 9 and you were 19. Then there’s the time when you taught me how to ride a motorcycle but skipped the part about how to stop it. I never seen a man need half a bag of milk to drink one cup of tea but Jim needed that and it drove my dad nuts.
I always looked up to you Jim and wanted to be like you. That’s says a lot about a person when you influence people so much that they want to be just like you. You were kind, strong, hard-working and so funny. I use to love watching you tease Grandma all the time and get under her skin. You loved her so much and she loved you back. Even as a youngster I could see that. That made me smile every day when I was little. I even think I asked you to tease her just to make me laugh.
What I carry with me today that I got from you besides the many memories:
The music artists that when I hear them remind me of you and the time we spent together working and travelling. Diana Ross, The J Geils Band, Elvis….just to name a few. Every time I hear their music I think of you and the time we spent together.
Your work ethic…You were arguably the hardest working individual I’ve ever worked with. I carry this same work ethic in my life today because of what I learned from you all those years ago.
Your love for family…everyone knows how much you cared about your family and how much you wanted us to be together all the time. It’s so difficult to make that happen but I too want my family together with having kids of my own and won’t forget that above all else its family that holds us together and I’ll cherish that you’re part of mine and I of yours.
Thank you for our talks Jim. Although we didn’t get to see each other as often as we like, we were able to have those chats on the phone and you were there for me again when I needed someone to talk to and offering help if I needed it even when you yourself were going through your own challenges. Just the kind of guy you are and always have been.
Say Hi to Mom and Grandma…love you Jim
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Elise Fowler posted a condolence
Sunday, November 5, 2017
Jim was a big brother to me. So many great memories. Jim you gave me my first black eye playing soccer. He looked at me and said .oh boy Helmut is gonna kill me. We laughed so hard kept playing. . He came to visit me here in Fort Erie and the snow was so bad they closed the hwy in & out. He was shocked he couldnt leave . So what did he do? He ordered a pizza we rented some movies and waited out tge storm.. I am deeply saddened by the loss of my dear Uncle. Jimmy you will never know how much i loved and looked up to you. Rest easy i know now your at peace
Elise
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Sean Gallant posted a condolence
Sunday, November 5, 2017
It is not until you lose someone that you realize the history you shared with that person. Jim was like a father figure, big brother, and countless other things in my life. Jim had so many interests in a broad spectrum of things and shared many of those with me.
I think some of those things he wanted to show and others he wanted someone to try with him.
I remember Jim always starting his day with a very BIG breakfast when I was a kid. Jim was just a little bigger kid, And when I say BIG I mean BIG he would have a heaping bowl of cornflakes soaked with milk and usually 4 pieces of crunchy peanut butter toast.
He needed that much fuel so he could go running with rocks in his pockets Ya know so he could be that much better a runner. As kids we would get him to stick his arms out straight so we could hang off of them. Jim knew no boundaries his hero`s where Lou Ferigno, Arnold Swartzenegger and anything to do with the Weider brothers fitness.
With his many interests and passion he made you passionate about those things, whether it was stereo speakers, a turn table or a nice set of car rims.
Jim told me all about the waffle shoe for running and how a guy invented it with his waffle iron and went on to win a race.
He also introduced me to music, everything from Meatloaf to The Pointer Sisters.
Yes he loved movies as well.
I always thought a butter tart or brownie company would seek him out as a poster child. Yes he was passionate about that tool.
Although he is no longer with us in physical being many of the passions, interests, and ethics live on through me.
I see Jim everyday throughout the many things, interests, and ethics taught to me.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart
Love you Jim
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Carol Hutchinson posted a condolence
Sunday, November 5, 2017
Jim was one of the cutest babies you will ever see, with what I thought was translucent soft skin. Even as Jim got older people would remark what nice skin he had. Jim stayed at our house for a couple of summers working for the tobacco farmer on the next road. Jim loved that experience, sure he had to get up at 5am to get to work on time and believe me the work was hard, hot and dirty, but he loved going. I think part of that was because he was working with the five brothers and they all , including Jim, loved to pull pranks on each other. On a Saturday afternoon some of the boys went to the laundromat to wash their clothes, one thing led to another and the next thing you know the brothers had put Jim in the dryer. It must have been okay with Jim because he continued to work with and remained friends with those boys.
When Jim came to visit he would often go for long walks with his doggy pals, he would sometimes be gone for hours, but eventually would come back with stories of the eagle he had seen, or rabbits running through the snow. He had got the photography bug at some point and often took pictures of birds, animals and especially his Goldie.
At one point Jim took up running, he loved it. Between his running and exercises, (including pushups where he would clap his hands between going up and down). Jim was what you of this generation would call "ripped". In the last years health issues naggled Jim and as a result became front and centre. However, when he felt well enough he would still go walking.
Jim and Wendy , his companion of 20 years, saw each other often, even if it was just for a coffee. It was quite wonderful the way they supported each other and wonderful that they came into each other's lives.
Even though Jim was laid low in many of his recent years, he never gave up hope and was, as you know working on one of his hobbies, fixing electronics, when he had the heart seizure. We were told that it was very quick and that he wouldn't have suffered.
We will miss Jim , but know that this was a fitting end for a person who was in our mind "a giant of a man". Not many of us would survive as Jim called it, this crap. His accomplishments were many and the thing that mattered most to him was family, especially his nieces and nephews. Most of you will have a Jim story and it will be great to hear it.
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Tara Hutchinson posted a condolence
Sunday, November 5, 2017
Uncle Jim - well growing up with Uncle Jim, he helped spark an interest for me in photography, music and chocolate.
When Jim visited we always knew we would have fun - he took me on my first snowmobile ride, first time shifting a manual car (he was driving and pushed in the clutch...I thought I was in control), and first time going on an adventure walk (with my brother...across Lake of the Mountain...in pants...in July...LOL).
Jim would sing at the top of his lungs to old tunes (The Wonderer by Dion and Walk like a Man by the Four Seasons), he loved hanging out with our dogs at the house (Goldie was a stray dog and Jim just loved her and we knew she loved him too), he loved to eat out and have clubhouse sandwiches and brownies and he loved Home baked goods- who wouldn’t with having an excellent baker like Grandma Jean to make things for you!
Jim always found cool things like movies to watch on a Friday night with a bag of chips to go along with it; books you might like on a obscure but interesting subject; or a little trinket he saw from a store he just happened to find - he let you know in his own way he was thinking about you.
The last time he was at the house was for Easter a few years ago. He helped hide candy for the kids, even went around to collect some and we played outside like we did as kids - Jim hitting the ball to the makeshift outfield and everyone running to catch it. It was a great day for us all, laughing and cheering.
Garrett, Ginny and I will remember that day with Jim just like all the other memories we had from our youth, he never changed. We had two grandmas that were awesome, but didn’t know our grandfathers...Jim took on that role of fun Uncle but also that role of guiding Grandpa. For that I will miss him and his love of family.
Love you Jim
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Rodney Hynes posted a condolence
Saturday, November 4, 2017
I remember you Jimmy as my mother's younger cousin who came to visit . You seemed like the hulk to us kids . Muscles in your biceps and always played sports with us young 10 and 12 year olds . A smile on your face and always so kind . We shall see each other once again with glorified perfect strong bodies and we shall play basketball once again . It is an honour to know you .
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Lawrence & Mylène Beatty posted a condolence
Friday, November 3, 2017
So very sorry for your families loss. We are thinking of you at this time.
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