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Duncan & Elizabeth Vipond pledged to donate to SIMCOE HALL SETTLEMENT HOUSE
Saturday, August 25, 2018
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Lynn & Al Sawtell donated to SIMCOE HALL SETTLEMENT HOUSE
Saturday, August 25, 2018
In fond memory of Frank
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Brian & Jeannine Bennett pledged to donate to SIMCOE HALL SETTLEMENT HOUSE
Saturday, August 25, 2018
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Bev & Jim Robertson donated to ST. MICHAEL'S HOSPITAL
Saturday, August 25, 2018
You are in our thoughts and prayers
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Michael Andonovski donated to ST. MICHAEL'S HOSPITAL
Saturday, August 25, 2018
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Sheila Elizabeth Jackson pledged to donate to SIMCOE HALL SETTLEMENT HOUSE
Saturday, August 25, 2018
Frank was such a special friend.
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Lynda Hatfield donated to SIMCOE HALL SETTLEMENT HOUSE
Saturday, August 25, 2018
My sincere sympathies. I know how much he will be missed.
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Ville Siren posted a condolence
Saturday, August 25, 2018
My deepest condolences to Frank’s family. I wish you lots of strength during this difficult time. I considered Frank a very good friend and colleague. He will be deeply missed. Ville
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Frank Neal posted a condolence
Friday, August 24, 2018
I am very sorry to hear of Frank's passing. I will miss him and our conversations at the rink on those game night.RIP, my friend. With deepest sympathy.
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Amy Johnston Spiridakis posted a condolence
Friday, August 24, 2018
Dear Lynn, Jackie, Amanda, & Brandon,
My deepest sympathies with you at the passing of your dear dad and husband. He was SUCH a GREAT guy - a great listener, friend and true teammate. I always loving seeing him - he had a twinkle in his eye and a sincere interest in those around him. My thoughts and prayers are with you... may your memories help carry you through this times.
With love,
-Amy Johnston Spiridakis
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Paul Romanuk posted a condolence
Friday, August 24, 2018
Frank was a great hockey man with an amazing eye for talent. We all know that. However, more than that, he was a fine teacher who had an influence on a little boy he taught at Lakewoods PS in south Oshawa. Me. Considering his love of sports, it's not surprising that Frank organised a floor hockey league for all of us. The games took place in the school gym over the lunch hour. I asked "Mr. Jay" if I could do play by play for the games.
"Wouldn't you rather just play?"
I didn't hold out a lot of hope.
A few days later he took me aside and told me that he had arranged for a microphone to be set up on the stage of the gym and that the play by play would go over the school's PA system. No doubt torturous for the staff, but a big deal to my 11 year old self.
Looking back many years later with the eyes of an adult, I saw a man who did what great teachers do: Encourage and nurture little people. As a professional broadcaster, I ran into Frank more times than I could count in hockey rinks all over the world. He would often joke about my "first play by play role". To him, I'm sure I was always "that little kid who wanted to announce when I taught him at Lakewoods." To me, he'll always be "Mr. Jay." A fine man who helped push a little kid off on a journey.
My sincere condolences to family and friends. May wonderful memories and love get you through these sad times.
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Blaine Smith posted a condolence
Friday, August 24, 2018
Terrific man.
Big loss to the hockey community.
Rest in Peace my friend.
Blaine
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Paul, Janice, and J.P. Theriault posted a condolence
Thursday, August 23, 2018
And when great souls die,
after a period peace blooms,
slowly and always irregularly.
Spaces fill with a kind of
soothing electric vibration.
Our senses, restored, never
to be the same, whisper to us.
They existed. They existed.
We can be. Be and be better
for they existed.
- Maya Angelou
Rest In Peace, dear Frank.
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Thursday, August 23, 2018
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Scott Burnett posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 22, 2018
Please accept my condolences, Mr. Jay was my grade 7 homeroom teacher at Whitby Senior in 1979-80. He is one of the best teachers I ever had and fueled a love of history that continues to this day. I also loved his sly sense off humor. A fellow student had the last name Bruneau, there was a Canadiens player from the 20’s and 30’s named Bruneteau whose nickname was Mud, when my classmate made a mistake, Mr. Jay said “ from now on your name is Mud. He called him that the rest of the year. I still take great delight in remembering Mr. Jay’s smirk when calling him Mud. A fine man taken much too soon.
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Cousin Ron and Connie Snudden posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 22, 2018
Very sad news for all who knew him. Going to miss cousin Frank stopping in for a quick visit during one of his road trips. Many fond childhood memories. Always admired him and his many achievements. Rest in peace Frank
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Richard & Margaret Donald pledged to donate to Lakeridge Health Foundation
Wednesday, August 22, 2018
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Blower donated to ST. MICHAEL'S HOSPITAL
Wednesday, August 22, 2018
We are so sorry for your loss.
From The Blower family
Parry Sound
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Rod & Donna Bloomfield posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 22, 2018
So sorry to hear about Frank - our condolences are with you in this time of sorrow.
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Tim Burke posted a condolence
Wednesday, August 22, 2018
Rest In Peace Frank. Your humor and memories will live on. You were a great mentor and friend.
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Craig Heisinger purchased flowers
Tuesday, August 21, 2018
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Monday, August 20, 2018
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Robbin Faucher posted a condolence
Monday, August 20, 2018
May you soar with the Angels Cousin Frank as you watch over those who’s lives you touched in so many ways. You are & will be truly missed ❤️ Say hello to Grandma as well as the rest of the family. You’re lucky to be with them again xoxox
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Danny Young posted a condolence
Monday, August 20, 2018
Frank was my teacher in Grade 6 at Lakewood's Public School and Grade 8 at Whitby Senior. Frank did have a nickname for most of his students my was Charlie Huddy, Frank drafted Charlie to the OHL. I also played hockey and Frank came out to watch one of my games, I was only around 10 or 11 at the time. I can still remember him driving a AMC Gremlin at Whitby Senior. Great guy sadly gone to early.
Take Care
Danny Young
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Monday, August 20, 2018
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Monday, August 20, 2018
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April Mortimer posted a condolence
Monday, August 20, 2018
Our sincere sympathies to you and your family Lynn. May you find comfort in your many loving memories.
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Carla and Bob Brown posted a condolence
Monday, August 20, 2018
Our thoughts are with you, the family, at this time. How shocking to hear about Frank! He was in our classes at Eastdale for high school and we had a great visit with him at the Eastdale reunion a couple years ago. I also taught school and saw Frank considerably during our careers. His reputation as a great teacher was well known. I know the same passion he had in the classroom and for hockey life made him a spark for anyone who knew him. He will truly be remembered, in fact we often talked about him at our retired teacher's breakfast club even though he travelled so much and we didn't see him often. He has left a permanent mark in this world and we will be sorry to be without him.
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Scott Howson posted a condolence
Monday, August 20, 2018
I only got to know Frank over the last three years after he joined the Oilers. I really enjoyed his company. He was unselfish, caring and sincere. Very passionate about his work. Outstanding work ethic. I will miss seeing him and sharing our thoughts on players. My thoughts and prayers are with Lynn and Brandon, his two daughters, Jackie and Amanda and the rest of his loved ones.
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Daryl Gilbert lit a candle
Sunday, August 19, 2018
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Lisa Irwin posted a condolence
Saturday, August 18, 2018
Mr. Jay was my grade five teacher way back in the 90s. He was full of energy and had a great sense of humour that others have already mentioned. He had nicknames for all of us, great stories to share, and a love for hockey. I don't think anyone who had Mr. Jay as a teacher will forget the presence he created in the classroom. I certainly will never forget him. My condolences to Frank's family and friends.
-Lisa Irwin (aka Machine Gun)
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Heather and Ron Pither posted a condolence
Saturday, August 18, 2018
Ron and I were saddened to hear of Frank’s passing.
My memories of Frank go back to a time when we were teenagers. An all round great guy to be around.
We reconnected again through my son Luke’s hockey. Ron had many great chats with Frank over the years. His thoughtfulness will not be forgotten when Ron was experiencing health issues. His calls of encouragement were greatly appreciated.
A wonderful friend who will be greatly missed.
Our condolences to his wife Lynn and family.
Sincerely,
Heather and Ron Pither
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Drew Lichtenheldt purchased flowers
Saturday, August 18, 2018
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Saturday, August 18, 2018
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Mr. Jay taught me so much more than the standard 5th grade curriculum. He taught me life lessons which, I call upon to this day, nearly three decades later.
I am not ashamed to admit that Mr. Jay was the best teacher I have ever had. I am ashamed to admit however, that I didn't appreciate, or recognize his efforts until I had moved onto the next grade.
I also never got a chance to shake his hand, and, genuinely thank him for helping to make me who I am today, and, for being an all around awesome man.
I never encountered another teacher whom every other teacher in the school liked, and, who could make every student in his class, or, in the schoolyard smile or laugh with a joke or display of outrageous school spirit. (I can still see him doing his alligator/crocodile clap.)
I am glad to have known him, and, I will never forget him.
My sincerest condolences to his family, and, loved ones.
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Ashlee Andrews (Nee Lemick) posted a condolence
Friday, August 17, 2018
In my mind, Mr Jay will always be one of the best. I was fortunate to have been in his grade 5 class at Bellwood PS. I remember him as always smiling, never short on patience and a genuine man truly interested in his students. It’s funny to see Mr Delong talk about busy weekend trips because as a student, you never would have known he had two very busy careers. As a teacher myself now, I can’t imagine how he always seemed so relaxed. My sincere condolences to all of you who will no doubt miss his laugh and great sense of humour. May he Rest In Peace.
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Anna Huston posted a condolence
Friday, August 17, 2018
I am so sorry for your loss. As with many of the best ..he was gone too soon.
I was so privileged to work with Frank at Bellwood P.S. He was a wonderful man and well loved teacher. You must have been so proud of him . I know he always spoke of his family with love and pride. Take some comfort in the happy times you shared , especially at the cottage, another of his pride and joys . Thinking of you . Anna
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Jordan Mundy posted a condolence
Friday, August 17, 2018
I was one of the lucky students at Bellwood P.S. who had the privilege of being in Mr Jays grade 5 class. He really knew how to connect with the kids and often had the whole class in fits of uncontrollable laughter. I remember the last time I saw him was about 5 years ago at a gas station, I yelled out “Mr Jay!” He turned around and looked at me with a huge smile on his face and said “Hee-Haw, it’s good to see you again baby!” Hee-Haw was the nickname he bestowed on me during my time in his class. I was surprised he recognized my face after 15 years and even more surprised he remembered my real name and nickname. He touched so many lives and really made class fun. I’ll never forget you Mr Jay, the king of portable 7.
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Ken Slater posted a condolence
Friday, August 17, 2018
Frankie was a great scout and an even better person.
He helped many people along the scouting trail and his warm smile is a lasting memory.
Frankie will be missed by many in the hockey world.
Deepest condolences to the family.
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Berta Avery posted a condolence
Friday, August 17, 2018
Dear Jay family;
Please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of a cherished husband, father and Grandfather.
Know I am thinking of all of you at this sad time.
May cherished memories sustain you all through the days ahead.
Sincerely,
Berta Avery. (Everett Ontario)
Former Kindergarten teacher at Adelaide McLaughlin Public School
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Dan Delong posted a condolence
Friday, August 17, 2018
On top of Frank's weekday teaching duties, I remember his fatigue from weekend scouting flights for the OHL and NHL. The kids loved him, due to his sense of humour and his habit of assigning fond nicknames to every student. [Yes, he could remember the true names of his students. I'll bet many students still remember their "handle", and, perhaps, still use it.] I also recall Frank mentioning his adventurous youth, growing up and attending school in the area just east of the old Cullen Gardens Park, and not far from the new board of education's Sinclair complex. In anticipation of retiring, he showed us plans for changes to the family cottage. This is a tough time for family. Be together a lot. Remembering Frank's life should be a celebration - a hoot, in other words!
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George & Roseann Melanson donated to SIMCOE HALL SETTLEMENT HOUSE
Friday, August 17, 2018
In loving memory of our dear friend Frank Jay.
George & Roseann Melanson
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Friday, August 17, 2018
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Jack Theriault donated to SIMCOE HALL SETTLEMENT HOUSE
Friday, August 17, 2018
A great man Taken too soon. His caring ways will not be forgotten. Frankie may you Rest In Peace.
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Jack Theriault posted a condolence
Friday, August 17, 2018
We are so very sorry to hear of your loss. Our limited memories of Frankie are what a great friend and man he was to my brother Paul. He will never be forgotten in that regard. Very huge loss of a great man. Please accept our sincerest condolences. Jack and Gerry Theriault
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Thursday, August 16, 2018
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It was such a previlage to be on his path even so it was brief his calm manner and reassuring smile was unmatched.
RIP
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Barb Blackett donated to SIMCOE HALL SETTLEMENT HOUSE
Thursday, August 16, 2018
Lynn So sorry to hear of your loss. My condolences to you and the kids.
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Thursday, August 16, 2018
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Alan and Linda Taggart posted a condolence
Thursday, August 16, 2018
It was truly an honour many years ago to have been introduced to Mr.Jay while he was affiliated with the Oshawa Generals. Our deepest Sympathies are extended to his family at this time.
